seems the problem is not with sendmail.
For whatever reason the nwsp2 seems not be able to connect with smtp servers behind the router. Inside LAN it can connect to an smtp server but not to one on the internet.
its not a router issue I tried to contact the mail servers via my windows pc using telnet (in a command window) and was able to connect to them and send an e-mail. So the router is not the problem.
I tried also telnet on the nwsp2 and could connect to smtp servers in the LAN but not on the internet...
I can ping to the mail servers using the nwsp2 so it is able to go through the router and contact the server but it connot connect to port 25 or 587 (I tried also 465 and that worked partly on one server, the connection was established but i could not give commands. probably this is because port 465 is smtps and I need to use an ssl connection instead of telnet (plain text)
I used openssl client and was able to connect to that server abd sent an e-mail from the nwsp2.
So it seems to be finding the proper authentication method
Anyhow some progress is made..